Ah, the beauty of the TV shows in the 70's. Growing up watching "The Brady Bunch," I was led to believe that children in a large family encountered problems one at a time. Every week, a different child took the spotlight as they journeyed through some type of trial or difficulty. Somehow brothers and sisters quietly kept behind the scenes in order for the parents to appropriately focus on the problem at hand. No one dare overlap the plot, as that might have been too much to handle. 

Having six kids, I'm here to testify that there is no such order, as convenient as it might have been. Instead, I have found myself in moments where one has a dilemma to talk through with me, another is having a temper tantrum, two have stories they are trying to tell me at the same time, one is mysteriously quiet, and the other is running to me with a skinned knee. This is normal. This is real life. 

I have noticed however that there is a certain parallel to my old 70's show. At times there tends to be one, who shows they need attention most through a bad attitude. This can make them less cuddly, desirable and lovable. It can be tempting to put my focus on the cheerful ones, and hope the cranky one will just work it out on their own, yet it doesn't work that way. The more needy a child becomes, the more I must run to them, in order to fill them up, and bring them back. 

A stinky attitude is a clear sign that I have overlooked a little heart, and need to direct my focus, joy, and love on them in order to bring them back. Better yet, I can avoid such attitudes by knowing and acting daily on the fact that they need to be filled with hugs and love constantly in order to keep them at peak performance. If I am constantly working way ahead of the game, keeping them filled, I won't find myself reacting to them falling apart through attitudes and behaviors.  

Although our children don't encounter problems one at a time, God is kind and uses a sort of spotlight to show us where our attention must be. Likewise, He does not overlap the main plot, as that might be too much to handle.