1 comment | published by Linda | December 30, 2009

Proverbs 17:22
“A merry heart doeth good like a medicine.”

We met when I was only 13 years old. I remember when we started dating how he fell in love with my cheerful heart. We couldn’t wait to be together each day, and would laugh and play continuously. It didn’t really matter what we were doing, as long as we were together. The thought of being with him would thrill me, and the thought of saying goodbye seemed unbearable.

I have found it to be so important to continue this cheerfulness as the years go by. When we dated, and were first married, a crazy joy wrapped around us, and we were truly playmates. How important it is to continue being his playmate. To laugh, be silly, filled with thankfulness for his love.

My smile and playfulness can sooth his heart, and set the tone for a home where the kids will thrive. This medicine of cheerful thankfulness is unmatched. I want my smile to be infectious, and my laughter sweet.
I could spend time and money on my appearance, or focus on my heart, and the inexpensive, unrivaled smile.

...Debi Pearl offers good reminders of such things in her book, “Created to Be His Help Meet”... check it

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1 comment | published by Linda | December 04, 2009

We women are pretty handy with our household weapons. A roll of duct tape and a glue gun can accomplish much. It seems with some clever ingenuity we are capable of securing items around the house with our fast fixing tools. If a handle pops off the drawer, or the dishwasher isn’t latching right, we come to the rescue with our tool chest. Fully knowing that it’s only a temporary, jimmy-rigged solution, we like to hold things together. If there is a hole, we must fill it. Even beyond items that aren’t holding up around the house, if something is lacking, we jump in, and fill in.

It’s natural for us to want to help, this is God’s design. Yet, we can tend to even fill in for our husbands. If a husband is quiet at a dinner party, his wife is sure to make all conversations complete with the guests. If he isn’t especially helpful around the house, she busies herself and keeps the home up alone, which only encourages him to not be involved. If he struggles with cheerfulness or disciplining with the children she keeps the atmosphere up for the family, and is the commander of the rules. If he isn’t leading the way she would like to see him lead, she jumps into his shoes and leads the family. Each time, he has been robbed of some of his manhood, she is certain to fall, and can take everyone down with her.

We rush in to carry. We fill in. If something in the relationship is lacking, we rush in with our quick fix solutions. Problem is, over time our jimmy-rigged solutions eventually crumble. We are designed to help, not to carry. If we become confused in our roles, we will crumble.

Carrying not only hurts us, but denies our men the privilege of growing. If we jump in, he looses the chance to be the man God designed him to be. He belongs on the field, we get to cheer him on.

Lay your weapons down, have your hands open and ready for some serious cheering.

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2 comments | published by Linda | November 25, 2009

I was awakened in the middle of the night to the sound of our cat tossing legos up and down the hallway. As I lay still in my bed I was left with the decision to make. Should I try to ignore the irritating clanging and tapping and attempt to go to sleep, or bother myself to the point of bringing my body upright and stumbling in the dark to find the culprit?

Choosing the lazy approach, I remained in my bed, in the darkness realizing the complete irritation of the monotonous sounds. It reminded me of a leaking, dripping faucet that strangely seems to appear to get louder with every passing moment.

Becoming angry that this little animal was taking away my privilege of sleep, I glanced over at my husband. As I lay there looking at his face, I was reminded of a verse. Proverbs 27:15-16 “A continual dripping on a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike; whoever restrains her restrains the wind, and grasps oil with his right hand.”

I was brought to complete humility, reminded once again of the importance of my role as his wife. My disposition, attitude, mood, expressions, and words make up the atmosphere in which he lives and breathes. Do my words represent how deeply honored I feel to be married to him? How I’m consistently finding so many reasons to respect him so much? Do I bring joy to his heart? Peace to his mind? Do I fill the rooms in our home with warmth and beauty? Or have I fallen away from my desires of the woman I want to be, into a pit of negativity and complaining? Through several pregnancies and small children to care for during the day, I’ve somehow given myself the right to lay my burdens at his feet, forgetting the intense privilege I have in the life he has worked so hard to provide for me.

Why is it so easy to unload, to be self-centered, and a challenge to uplift and to serve? I want my husband to find relief from his burdens when he comes into my presence. To have a place of rest, a place of peace.

The legos banging against the wall have been used by my Lord as a reminder of my countenance, the importance of my disposition in my home. I couldn’t bare the thought of my husband choosing to close his eyes around me, as an attempt to ignore the irritating sounds. I want him to rest peacefully knowing there won’t be any legos clanging in the night.

Proverbs 31:26 “She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness.”

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0 comments | published by Linda | November 19, 2009
“God’s will is for a wife to have a merry heart, a cheerful countenance and a glow that will refresh the most stressed and tired husband on the planet. Bubbling cheer goes a long way to maintain or even restore a marriage.” ...Debi Pearl
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