4 comments | published by Linda | February 14, 2010

Proverbs 1:8

“Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. They will be a garland to your head and a chain to adorn your neck.”

It was his bedtime. He was three. I would look back into his room and see him sitting on his bed. It was clear it was not time for me to leave. “Do you have to go?” he would ask. I grinned, and stayed. I knew time would pass, and he wouldn’t need my presence in this way.  

It seemed as though I woke up the next morning and this little boy was standing six feet tall. Still expecting to see that young boy run to me, I’m shocked as now a tall young man comes through my door like a bolt of lightning. We talk, but it’s no longer about trains and cars. We’re talking about his day, his feelings, where he’s coming from and where he’s going.

Could it be that he needs me more now than when he was a small boy years ago? It’s easy to assume that he’s grown and has no need for my love and attention, yet he does, and more.

Although sometimes appearing to want to be alone, I start the conversation. After I’ve spent time with him in his room I stand up to go. As I look back and see him sitting there behind me, it becomes clear that it is not time for me to leave.

As I turn to go he says, “You have to go?”

I grin, and stay.


Posted in Living Room    |   Tags: Bolt of Lightning

February 14, 2010
You are right, Linda. Older kids actually need us more than when they were very young. Other people can change a diaper, hold a bottle, even keep peace on the playground. But the older children really want to deal with a parent, it is wonderful to be needed at that time in their lives.

February 14, 2010
I loved it!!! Woot!!

February 16, 2010
wow that is awsome mom.These are so fun to read!!!!!!

Chinny Lu Lu
February 19, 2010
I hope to have this kind of relationship with Christian :) and I hope to be an amazing mommy like you!!!!!!

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